Tumblr haet, and most web haet, comes in two flavors and neither is (are?) worth responding to.
Either you’ve got someone so desperate for a reaction out of you, and your blog, and some kind of internet publicity on your blog, that even anon messages will suffice and bring personal validation if answered. Let’s be honest here, this is usually an unpopular haeter. Don’t respond to this. Even if you got an snappy comeback or a hilarious gif. Because any kind of answer is a loss here. I mean, it’s not really a loss to YOU unless you legitimately get upset, but you can keep it from being a win for them. And not publishing an ask doesn’t hurt your public image. No one’s gonna know you even got it.
OR… You’ve got someone who’s just batshit nuts. No anon. Crazy confidence. They’ll call you out to publicly
fightargue in front of the flagpole and everything. These people are crazy. Let’s be honest here, this is usually a popular haeter. Or, at least they believe themselves renowned enough to warrant direct attacks against others. Which you might be initially frightened or riled up by, particularly since they like to take civil topics or discussions and then BRING THE HAET suddenly, expecting you to respond to the trap. But don’t forget these people are fucking nuts and have the imaginary balls/ovaries to fight anything and anyone for any reason. So you really can’t win, and don’t need to fight in the first place. Most people in the general public know these people are fucked up, so while it might be more difficult to let go than an anon, it’s still in your best interests to let this one slide. Otherwise you just as crazy for getting involved.
So just let fucks be man. Don’t attack people. Don’t allow yourself to be attacked by responding to it, because only you can validate the haet.